"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it." -John Lennon
Couples:
My approach in couple therapy is often described as quite different from many other couple therapists. I incorporate treatment models that integrate neuroscience, attachment theory, and human biology to develop a true sense of security in the couple relationship and deep understanding of one another. Sessions tend to be focused in the present and on learning new and improved ways to both repair relationship injuries from the past, but more importantly, to also become experts of each other in order to care for one another in ways no one has ever been able to do before.
This approach differs from many other models that focus on lengthy discussions of all the problems that have and continue to occur, and thinking through of problems and issues that keep re-occurring despite discussion after discussion.
By focusing on what is occurring in this moment that either creates a sense of security, connection, intimacy/closeness, and safety in the relationship, versus that which promotes feelings of detachment, rejection, abandonment, fear, or threat, couples can step off the merry-go-round of fighting with and/or fleeing from one another and find a true connection and strength in and through one another.
To achieve this I have trained in a method called PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) which is a cutting edge treatment model that helps couples develop secure relationships through understanding of neuroscience, attachment theory and human biology. However, I incorporate techniques developed through 25 years of experience, and the wisdom from many traditional and cultural relationship anchors applied in ways that fit each couple's unique dynamic and belief system.
This approach differs from many other models that focus on lengthy discussions of all the problems that have and continue to occur, and thinking through of problems and issues that keep re-occurring despite discussion after discussion.
By focusing on what is occurring in this moment that either creates a sense of security, connection, intimacy/closeness, and safety in the relationship, versus that which promotes feelings of detachment, rejection, abandonment, fear, or threat, couples can step off the merry-go-round of fighting with and/or fleeing from one another and find a true connection and strength in and through one another.
To achieve this I have trained in a method called PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) which is a cutting edge treatment model that helps couples develop secure relationships through understanding of neuroscience, attachment theory and human biology. However, I incorporate techniques developed through 25 years of experience, and the wisdom from many traditional and cultural relationship anchors applied in ways that fit each couple's unique dynamic and belief system.
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